WWW… Eek!

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So… hands up who thought I was blogging about the internet?? Well nope, I’m not i’m afraid and sorry if you were looking forward to that! Instead, I am talking about ‘Working with Women’ Now, I know I have blogged about this before but I am blogging about it again, because I still need to get a few things off my chest, so here goes…

Where to start? OK, I for one, prefer to work in an office full of men. I feel more at ease, more comfortable, less judged and I have more fun if I am totally honest with you. I am not a girls girl, maybe this is why, but I also have had a lot of awful experiences with women in the past, which you can read about (if you want to) in an earlier blog post.

I don’t know about you, but I just find a lot of women so competitive with other women… WHY people why?!! It drives me nuts, we are all individuals, don’t sniff me out like a dog and see who is the top one, we are just human’s that both want an easy life/day at work, we don’t need to feel like we are being looked up and down, sneered at, talked about. There is no need for it,  but unfortunately, from talking to other girlfriends/colleagues, it seems to happen a lot and I am not alone, boooo.

I will give you a little example of current ‘woman at work’ issue. This is classic behaviour that I have come across time and time again;

I currently sit in an office with 9 other men, (lucky me!), but sometimes not so much, look at previous blog post on pervs!  Anyway, a new young girl has started in another department downstairs & I went down to introduce myself and say hi and BOOM….instantly I felt the frostiness from her, I was just being my normal smiley, friendly self, but I got a look up and down & a not so friendly hello back?! Erm… What the hell is that about?  I then had to go down there again with a guy work colleague last week and it was quite entertaining, as she was super friendly & smiley to him, but still could barely say two words to me?  <—— This, is what I am talking about people.  Come on women, please stop this pathetic ridiculous silliness? I don’t know if it is a jealousy thing… an insecurity thing on their part, but I have now learnt to not take it personally, if I did I would be a crying mess, luckily I have learnt to have a thick skin over the years and have come to the conclusion that some women just have issues and see other women as a threat, for what reason I do not know,  But this is the sort of stupid worries I have at work. Not if I am going to get a promotion, pay rise or bonus. I worry about another ‘woman’ joining the team. This, of course will eventually happen, but I just hope and pray that she is one without claws and issues… yeah OK, we all have some issues, so I just ask for her to be ‘nice’ Is that too much to ask do you think? 

Now for the positive bit… as I don’t want to sound like a whinger and there are some positives that come out of ‘working with women’ (woo hoo) & that is, I have also met some lovely, great women friends from work, who I now count as close friends, so I know they aren’t all bad, but from past experience, I still think they are few and far between and I hope one day this changes, as there is just no need for it. 

At the end of the day (I hate that phrase but hey, I am using it) we are all striving for the same things aren’t we? ‘HAPPINESS’, doesn’t every single one of us want to be happy? So, other women out there… remember the next time you meet another woman at work, on the train, shops etc…please be nice, don’t instantly judge. We are all fighting our own inner demons in one way or another, so if we were just all a bit nicer to each other, it would make every day a bit happier and a lot less ‘rahhhh’ and ‘grrrr’ & I for one know what kind of day I would prefer!

Warning: Cheesy quote below! I can’t help myself!

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2 thoughts on “WWW… Eek!

  1. Ha! good luck with that Michelle Obama! I think that it has been instilled in women that there is a man shortage and that other women are competition. These messages are constantly played on a loop via magazines and soap operas – even shows like Jerry Springer that show women attacking other women instead of the man who has wronged her.
    In general terms I guess a man’s ego tells him (certainly from some of the chat up lines I’ve heard and the incredulity when you are not interested) that he has entitlement over women and there really is no competition, so what is to fear? It’s a whole different dynamic with men using their wallet to attract when their looks can’t. They are never told that there is a woman shortage. Their messages tell them they can have whatever woman they want and in any number they want. This subtle acknowledgement is bonding stuff whereas the woman’s message is divisive.

    • I completely agree with your points, especially with regards to the media not helping the situation and women getting at other women when it is actually the man that has wronged them! Women need to stop being so competitive with other women. As cheesy as this sounds…we should empower each other instead of being hateful and envious of one another. I unfortunately don’t think this will ever change but it is good to know that other ‘women’ agree with me. Thanks for replying and following.

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